Sunday, September 27, 2009
Is thisThe Equality We Fought for?
I was urged on by the CNN report about epidemic violence towards women (because the death of Annie Le) so I started poking around the internet this is what I found:
Women are more likely to be assaulted or killed by an intimate partner, especially after they end the relationship. Men do have violent crimes committed against them by female partners but at a rate of a mere fraction of women's rates.
This post came about because I got my MRI report for my brain scan yesterday. It wasn't what I expected. I never think anything bad is going to happen to me, that others get those bad news and trials. The problem with denial is you dont know it when you have it. Regardless, I think some of the injuries I sustained from sticking around a cretin named Andy have caught up with me. Being kicked in the head, or slammed against walls or cement floors apparently causes real damage that can do real damage for life. I am pissed off at myself for helping cause that situation. ( I picked his stupid ass and couldnt get away for years)
How many examples do we see in films and "entertainment" of women as the victims... slasher flicks, violent, aggressive (rape fetish, bondage, kidnapping etc) porn both in print, film and the internet. Glamorizing sexuality and violence, equating the two in some pre adolescent's brain sets a chemical reaction in his brain. Eventually the boys grow into men without many manners or empathy. Somehow the objectification of women has become the norm in our society. IMO, both sides are guilty of the path we are stumbling down. Ultimately, the older ones need to take the kids under our wings and teach them what it means to be a man or a woman. Take a stand. Let the stations or Hollywood know what you think of their choices.
Worse still, some women help perpetuate this disgusting treatment of our women and children ( future women) by dancing naked for men, getting drunk or drugged up so they can tolerate their "jobs". Most of them tell you they are doing it to pay for graduate school. Can't you imagine how proud Or seeking a man to take care of them, rather than getting an education and supporting herself at least until marriage.
It demeans all the effort of the strong women before us. Imagine how hard Margret Sanger or Susan B Anthony fought to break the stereotyping of women, to get us the right to control our reproductive rights, our right to vote? How do we repay it? Buying see thru shirts and hot pants to walk down the mall cus it is our "right" to look like a brainless tramp, reveling in the leers of cretins who cannot fathom what it means to be a man like having a job and being responsible members of society.
It appears to me that we are just walking breeders or sex objects. I was guilty of this as well when I was younger. I developed physically and I liked the way men paid attention to me, I was 'heard' for the first time and I bought into that lie of our fairy tales and Barbie doll life. Men would be my salvation, my refuge. So How would I catch one? keep a man? with my sex appeal, flirting and breasts of course! Who needs to be smart and independent? No wonder I picked idiots and settled for less. The lesson I learned was that I can't expect decent men to pay attention to me because I did not value myself for who I was not for what was between my legs.
We teach men how to treat us. we allow men to get away with bad behavior and excuse it as they are just wired that way, or that we deserve the treatment that we get. But If it were our daughters would we be so passive?