Seems the blag by Ms.K has been growing, and I just wanted to give more info on how to report if you have a stalker/harasser.
first call your police dept. They need to be aware so they can start a case, just to be certain that if it escalates into something physical, you have a record of repeated harassment. ( ie going after one's relatives in vindictiveness is prolly another notch in the belt of no no.)
call the FBI for your area
write to ic3.gov to report it
keep logs of all contacts and time spent
get a witness list just incase you need it for one of the agencies
call your state attny general ( write as well for a record)
Call/write your congressman
in texas here is the list:
http://www.visi.com/juan/congress/cgi-bin/newseek.cgi?site=ctc&state=tx
there is a handy dandy form to email directly to the congressman of your district. I am sure they would like to know how Tax payers dollars are being spent.
DO NOT poke or agitate the critter has always been a good thing I ve learned. If something is mad or rabid, you don't poke it with a sharp stick JMO.
If you have to, file a case with an attorney.
there are a couple of legal funds/fights going on right now, so if you want to help, feel free to contact me and I will give you the info of where to go.
You must conact me though thru my artfire or etsy shop please.
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Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Stress, stalking, and fear
I use this blog and my business to promote and to protect battered womens rights. I donate a portion of my sales to a center and this is why I am fed up with my online stalker. She is affecting other survivors to whom I donate.
YOU don't need to be a victim of stalking to have stress... this helps all you blessed ladies too! Feel free to skip the top bio part if need be.
Many of us have known a woman who has been stalked by a crazed person. Perhaps you are one yourself who has been filled with dread at the phone ringing or cringing at the point of opening your mails. The events of this last week have brought back vivid memories for me and that is part of the reason I decided to hold my ground against this vicious person.
Some of you know a lot of my story, some only pieces. I won't go into grisly detail as it really is no different for many of us who have had the bad luck of choosing the wrong person, or maybe being born into a family where someone did not cherish and protect you as a little girl. Maybe your Daddy left you and your family with no explanation, or maybe worse.
I have had bad traumas as a child and then as a young adult made choices based on my upbringing. Trying to fix what I could not in my past. Abandonment scared me, all I ever wanted was to be loved; at 8 yrs old I would cry myself to sleep at night wanting that love.
Fixing our pasts by dating or marrying someone who is just like dear old mom or dad does not work. The abuse and beatings were foreplay for rape for some of those men. It is about power and control. Checking the odometer or the clock or your change or not allowing one to work unless he controlled the money... some of you know the drill. Mine used to lock me in the house with the burglar doors when he left. When the beatings come it is almost a relief cus you know there will be a peace but eventually, the tension builds and he hurts you again. Or maybe he kicks you while you are pregnant and you miscarry. And still I stayed. I was too afraid to leave at that point.
At first I thought that was how families were, then I began to believe that was what
I deserved, I must be doing something wrong to make him so angry, didn't he say he loved me and tried so hard to fix himself with Dr appts and all.( for a month) Oh the lies we tell ourselves! Each time I grew less in his thrall, wanting to leave but seeing no way out. When the cops are called during one fight, they tell us to keep down and send me back in for more. ( the laws were different in 1984)
STRESS AFFECTS EVERYONE
The times you escape and hide, each time he finds you , you get more paralysed. The stress does something to your brain. There is a study online here:
http://www.reduce-my-stress.com/stress-0.html you can click the title to get to the main page.
When under attack the primitive response of our brain is flight or fight. The adrenals flood your body with chemicals to prepare us for that. to quote:
to control the release of the hormone adrenalin, which in turn raises the level of tension in the muscles of the body so that they are prepared for greater physical exertion. It also makes the heart pump faster and more deeply, thus producing that uncomfortable awareness of one's heart pounding away like a hammer in one's chest. Besides these physical effects, adrenalin also stimulates our feelings of fear, anger and exhilaration.
A woman or child who has years of this stress, has many mental and physical problems from this exhaustion, anger, rage, fear, dread at the unknown, heart disease, poor decision making abilities, the inability to function in certain situations, deep depression, suicide, muscle tension, back problems and so on. The site listed above has a great deal of good information on all types of stress and how to alleviate some of it.
Many women suffer great hurts and pains at the hands of men and this follows us the rest of our lives. I so desperately do not want to be defined by what has happened to me in life, yet it has shaped me, irreparably. Later in life I was once again raped while pregnant; I lost the pregnancy when these two men did their horrid deed. However, I do not think that they thought for one minute the life sentence they had given me. I was prescribed medication and soon became addicted and slid down society's scale to a faceless nobody living on the streets after an assault and the stalker set fire to my apt. ( this is why I have asked that person to remove my name from her incessant blog but she has refused saying that I should have been more careful) She is right. I could have lived underground forever, but I run from no one any longer. God has a plan for me and I will trust in Him from now on.
No one can restore innocence or trust. Once damaged that way, you will never be the same, nor will your family, husband or boyfriend and any human relationship you will ever have. It has only been recently that I discovered a relationship that will not let me down and has healed me in many ways (not made me forget) and that is with God. Others call it their Creator, Buddha, Allah, Jehovah whoever. The point is, I had to release those men who had done such harm. Some I have forgiven ( which in the Hebrew it means to set free) And it was freeing.
I have with some and not yet with others, the pain is too fresh. But in God's time I am sure that healing will come as well. These memories have been brought back clear and focused by this stalking from this alleged woman; still working hard to pray for her but I am not finding it easy. She is taking away from my business which helps other survivors and how dare she do that?
No one has the right to stalk you, to hurt you. Please check with your state for your stalkers laws and get help from your local womens center.
YOU don't need to be a victim of stalking to have stress... this helps all you blessed ladies too! Feel free to skip the top bio part if need be.
Many of us have known a woman who has been stalked by a crazed person. Perhaps you are one yourself who has been filled with dread at the phone ringing or cringing at the point of opening your mails. The events of this last week have brought back vivid memories for me and that is part of the reason I decided to hold my ground against this vicious person.
Some of you know a lot of my story, some only pieces. I won't go into grisly detail as it really is no different for many of us who have had the bad luck of choosing the wrong person, or maybe being born into a family where someone did not cherish and protect you as a little girl. Maybe your Daddy left you and your family with no explanation, or maybe worse.
I have had bad traumas as a child and then as a young adult made choices based on my upbringing. Trying to fix what I could not in my past. Abandonment scared me, all I ever wanted was to be loved; at 8 yrs old I would cry myself to sleep at night wanting that love.
Fixing our pasts by dating or marrying someone who is just like dear old mom or dad does not work. The abuse and beatings were foreplay for rape for some of those men. It is about power and control. Checking the odometer or the clock or your change or not allowing one to work unless he controlled the money... some of you know the drill. Mine used to lock me in the house with the burglar doors when he left. When the beatings come it is almost a relief cus you know there will be a peace but eventually, the tension builds and he hurts you again. Or maybe he kicks you while you are pregnant and you miscarry. And still I stayed. I was too afraid to leave at that point.
At first I thought that was how families were, then I began to believe that was what
I deserved, I must be doing something wrong to make him so angry, didn't he say he loved me and tried so hard to fix himself with Dr appts and all.( for a month) Oh the lies we tell ourselves! Each time I grew less in his thrall, wanting to leave but seeing no way out. When the cops are called during one fight, they tell us to keep down and send me back in for more. ( the laws were different in 1984)
STRESS AFFECTS EVERYONE
The times you escape and hide, each time he finds you , you get more paralysed. The stress does something to your brain. There is a study online here:
http://www.reduce-my-stress.com/stress-0.html you can click the title to get to the main page.
When under attack the primitive response of our brain is flight or fight. The adrenals flood your body with chemicals to prepare us for that. to quote:
to control the release of the hormone adrenalin, which in turn raises the level of tension in the muscles of the body so that they are prepared for greater physical exertion. It also makes the heart pump faster and more deeply, thus producing that uncomfortable awareness of one's heart pounding away like a hammer in one's chest. Besides these physical effects, adrenalin also stimulates our feelings of fear, anger and exhilaration.
A woman or child who has years of this stress, has many mental and physical problems from this exhaustion, anger, rage, fear, dread at the unknown, heart disease, poor decision making abilities, the inability to function in certain situations, deep depression, suicide, muscle tension, back problems and so on. The site listed above has a great deal of good information on all types of stress and how to alleviate some of it.
Many women suffer great hurts and pains at the hands of men and this follows us the rest of our lives. I so desperately do not want to be defined by what has happened to me in life, yet it has shaped me, irreparably. Later in life I was once again raped while pregnant; I lost the pregnancy when these two men did their horrid deed. However, I do not think that they thought for one minute the life sentence they had given me. I was prescribed medication and soon became addicted and slid down society's scale to a faceless nobody living on the streets after an assault and the stalker set fire to my apt. ( this is why I have asked that person to remove my name from her incessant blog but she has refused saying that I should have been more careful) She is right. I could have lived underground forever, but I run from no one any longer. God has a plan for me and I will trust in Him from now on.
No one can restore innocence or trust. Once damaged that way, you will never be the same, nor will your family, husband or boyfriend and any human relationship you will ever have. It has only been recently that I discovered a relationship that will not let me down and has healed me in many ways (not made me forget) and that is with God. Others call it their Creator, Buddha, Allah, Jehovah whoever. The point is, I had to release those men who had done such harm. Some I have forgiven ( which in the Hebrew it means to set free) And it was freeing.
I have with some and not yet with others, the pain is too fresh. But in God's time I am sure that healing will come as well. These memories have been brought back clear and focused by this stalking from this alleged woman; still working hard to pray for her but I am not finding it easy. She is taking away from my business which helps other survivors and how dare she do that?
No one has the right to stalk you, to hurt you. Please check with your state for your stalkers laws and get help from your local womens center.
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